I sometimes rely on my friends to get things off of my chest. Ok. I ALWAYS rely on my friends to do this. But I think I listen to what they need to vent out. So it’s tit for tat.
I have this one friend (let’s call him Narcissus) whom I’ve known for about 13 years. Over the last several years, he has been whining about his problems more and more to me. It was fine since he listened to by problems and gave me some advice.
In the last year, the dialogue has turned more into a soliloquy on his part. I will listen his problems and give him some advice. He will say, “Um, okay” hesitantly and not take what I said into consideration. Fine. Then being the silly person I am, I start in on my problems. The response: –. Dead air. For example, last Friday:
Narcissus: Fuck. I have bone splints in my knee. Problem whine moan bitch.
Me: That fucking sucks dude. Do you need any help moving around?
Narcissus: Nah. I don’t know how I’m going to do things now.
Me: (thinking “Isn’t that just what I offered dumbfuck?”)
Narcissus: Why does this always happen?
Me: I guess it’s that time of the year you break something. Hehehe.
Narcissus: That’s not funny. Why are you so mean?
Me: Oh come now. It’s funny and you know it.
Narcissus: But (more whining).
Me: I’m sorry. Let me know if you need any help.
Narcissus: Thanks.
Me: Yeah. Today my employee quit without notice. So I’m going to go crazy next week.
Narcissus: —
(after 30 seconds)
Narcissus: And I had so many plans. I want to do blah blah blah blah.
Me: Well, I guess you’re fucked. I’ve gotta go. Bye.
He’s turned into an emotional vampire. When I talked to him today, I told him my employee quit on Friday to which he responded he didn’t remember. Right after he said that, he started going into his same old problems.
That fucking did it. I just told him that he’s lost the art of conversation and friendship. He’s taking too much from me, and I don’t feel like dealing with it anymore. The end.
I know he’s going through issues big time, but he needs to realize he’s in his mid twenties. Because he has to deal with his shit doesn’t give him any excuse to become a 15-year old leech.
Skinny Puppy will make it all better.